Planning the Details of the Service

The funeral or memorial service is an important step toward healing hearts and beginning the process of mending the rip in the social fabric that exists after someone dies. Your Funeral Director will guide you throughout the planning process, provide you with clear answers to all your questions, and share his or her insights and experience with you.

The following is an overview of the many aspects of service planning you will discuss during the arrangement conference. If you have any questions about this information, don’t hesitate to call us.
 

Where Should it be Held?

Now that you have made the decision regarding burial versus cremation for your loved one, it is time to think about how you would like the service to look, and feel. It is an overall experience for everyone there; a testament to the life of someone you loved, and should illustrate the depth of your caring relationship.

Traditionally, a service is held in the family’s church, or in the chapel of the funeral home. But, in today’s world, you can choose to hold the service almost anywhere that is meaningful to you.

Perhaps there is a special place that your loved one would like to have their final goodbye? It could be at the beach, or in a favorite park; we’ve even seen services staged on the 18th hole of a golf course! Really, the choices are limited only by your imagination.

Of course, this is where you can rely heavily on your Funeral Director to help you in selecting the perfect location, and creating a memorable service.
 

What Day of the Week and Times are Best?

Naturally, the answers to this question depend on the location you’ve selected,  the schedules of those you wish to attend, and when the next newspaper prints so people can be informed of the service times you have selected. We have made arrangements for evening services. We’ve also seen early morning and afternoon services, held out-of-doors, in the sunshine and open air. If you have concerns about the weather, an indoor service is probably a good choice, and the day/time issue resolves itself when we look at the facility schedule.
 

Who Will Officiate the Service?

You can choose to have a minister of your faith officiate the service, or a certified celebrant. For that matter, you can choose almost anyone who is comfortable with speaking in public, but we believe it should be someone who cares deeply about guiding those in attendance through the ceremony. The choice is always yours, but we suggest you select someone you know well, and trust.

There are Other Decisions Too

Actually, these are the decisions which really shape and personalize the service. For example, you will need to decide:

• Will the service be open-ended, or will guests be told the service ends at a specific time?
• Which flowers, and in what colors, would you like to see surrounding the casket or urn?
• What type of music you would like to be played – and specifically, what selections?
• Will there be transportation provided, to and from the service for friends and family?
• Will you have a time in the service where people can share memories of your loved one?
• What will you do if no one wishes to share? What can you fill that time with?
• Will there be a traditional eulogy? And if so, who will present it?
• If there is to be a burial, will it be private, or open to all who choose to come?
• Are there close personal friends or business partners you'd wish to have service responsibilities?